To help you in making decisions for your special ceremony, let's take a look at what you need to do and what you can 'choose' to do. This will include what you Need to do legally for you are actually creating a legal contract between the two of you, subject to the laws of the land.
What you Choose to do includes traditions like including family or religious traditions, special rites, music, poetry, and protocol for your ceremony. A selection of many vows and traditions are available in the ebook I will send you called How Do We Say I D0?
I know it can be overwhelming and confusing to look at the whole mountain (the 'Ceremony') all at once, so we'll look at just one step at a time. first step on the trail up to the Mountain (the Ceremony) in which you two make a 'Contract of Marriage'.
The 4 elements for a legal Contract of Wedlock in the State of Idaho
1. Your Marriage License (Legal Contract application)
You may obtain a marriage license in any County Clerk's office which is good throughout the State of Idaho and has no expiration date. The fee is $28, no waiting, no blood test, and valid until used anywhere in Idaho. The County Clerk will require that you have proof of identity (driver's license will do), that you have a legal right to contract for marriage i.e. 18 or more, years of age (or permission from parent or guardian) and that you are not married to anyone else. If you have questions, call the County Recorder
You will give the original Marriage License and the copy to your Minister or Officiate, who may also want proof of identity such as a Driver’s License, and will complete, sign and date it giving you the original back after your Ceremony, and is responsible to have the copy recorded for you in the county where issued.
**Please Note: The State of Idaho now recognizes same gender marriages. However, please consuslt the Country Recorder for a marriage with a blood relative, Cousin marriages, common-law marriages or proxy marriages. We at Wilderness Weddings reserve the right to decline any ceremony. If so, we will fully refund any monies tendered and wish you a healthy life and much happiness.
2. Your Wedding Officiate – Minister
Your Officiate can be: an acting judge, retired judge, magistrate, city mayor, a designated officiate, or an ordained minister of any faith or religion. Although you may prefer to have a friend or family member perform your ceremony, if they are not previously approved by the County in which you will be married, your marriage may not qualify as the Legal Contract you have agreed to consummate through marriage.
Be sure that they are qualified to perform your Legal Contract of Marriage. Minister, Eloris Rogers - Wilhite, has diligently and faithfully performed the requirements to receive not one but three ordinations in Three fields of intra-denominational ministry which are on file in Valley County, and good throughout the State of Idaho. She is also Licensed in California and obtains special permission for other States as required.
3. Statement of Intention: Your officiate or minister can ask each of you simply: "Do you choose to be married to____ ?" You each need to acknowledge an affirmative "I do". Vows, promises, rings and other rites or traditions are not required, but preferred by most couples.
4. Pronouncement After you have answered affirmatively Item 3. the Minister or Officiate will state that you are now Legally Husband and Wife, presenting you with your Original Marriage Certificate and recording the copy for you. If you need it for travel, be sure and tell the Officiate so they have it recorded immediately for you.
That's It ... Congratulations!
The ceremony is for the two of you, whether you have no guests or 2000 guests!
If you want a quiet and intimate ceremony, you don't have to do without the special rites and traditions. There are many wonderful romantic traditions to include even if you have a small Elopement Style ceremony. There are many ideas for traditions and rites, vows and ring promises to include in your special ceremony that you will receive upon confirmation of your wedding with Wilderness Weddings.
BASIC VOWS Vow samples can be mixed or matched, added to, and arranged however you wish They are meant to expresses your own hearts and can be the same for bride and groom
or you can each say a different vow.
Basic Wedding "do you's" are:
(Groom or Bride): will you have (bride or groom) to be your lawful wedded wife or husband? "I do"
Basic repeat after me Vows (Promises are): I, _______________, take you, ________________, in marriage; To be my life partner, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in want until love (or my/our life) comes to an end (or as long as we live and love together).
The Ring Exchange is a separate vow following the Wedding Vows and they can be introduced with a very special "Blessing of the Rings". This is the outward demonstration to the world that you have contracted in wedlock. The wedding vows and ring vows can be repeated after me (short phrases at a time), or you can memorize them
or I can convert them to a simple “I do or I will".